Friday, August 31, 2007

Indigestion to Absorb


Somewhere in the din, the cocks are crowing. The ceiling fan whirs gently and soothingly amidst the night's (or should I say day's) stifling heat. For some reason, the bedroom's air-conditioner is not working as efficiently as it was last year. It is in dire need of servicing, after more than a year of usage.

I cannot seem to fall asleep.

I don't know why. No, make that I think I know why. I'm having a really bad heartburn following a fasting day yesterday. I'm windy and bloated, for eating some spicy food at Iftar in Cozy House Restaurant (affiliated with the famous Cozy Corner in Ampang Point) in Great Eastern Mall.

This was compounded by the delay of eating itself owing to the massive jam we were stuck in on Jalan Ampang enroute to our destination.

Luckily, there were some stroopwafel from Delft which I had brought along as they are currently Sadia's only favoured snack, which I practically inhaled during the car crawl.

So this is the quality of life in Kuala Lumpur. Getting stuck in jams in search of those much-needed escapades at the malls. The irony of it all is just too much to swallow.

I know it'd have been better if we had left a little bit earlier to avoid the jam and plan our journey accordingly. Going around is no longer according to our whims and fancies.

There are other interminable factors to figure out before we venture out the door. If the weather condition was the only drawback in Delft, now an interplay of a number of elements must be accounted for when an excursion is at hand.

Some Malaysians might raise an eyebrow (or two) for my ceaseless whinging about the deplorable state of some of our current infrastructure, not to mention mindset. Enough already and get adjusted, some will exclaim.

My intention is never to belittle my home country but merely to point to some egregious actions. Only yesterday a small lorry driver gave us a finger (and funnily enough spat at the sight of us!) just because we stopped when the light was about to turn red, thus blocking his vehicular progress towards a seemingly urgent destination.

We stopped at the junction going to the right and get this, the stupid driver wanted to use our lane to cut his way back to the straight lane!

As our country is celebrating the 50th anniversary of its independence, I beseech the powers-that-be to improve our way of life and cultivate future caring generations that would do the nation proud, both in their intrepid ideas and commendable thoughts.

Is it probably too idealistic to hope against hope that our changed mentality - kiasu, herd, the whole works - will lead to better, courteous manners on the road? No more big buses haphazardly changing lanes so as to further their movements in a jam. No more creation of 'additional' lanes by witless motorists to get ahead in their journey. No more leaping out of a junction without any concern of any incoming cars.

The continued progress of our nation hinges upon the collective efforts and thoughts of its people who in turn must cast aside their differences and prejudices in order to turn those ideas into concrete actions.

For that to happen though, some laws have to be amended and revamped while others must be tolerated for their own unique manifestation.

Happy Birthday Malaysia. May you liberate yourself from the shackles of incongruity and always exude that much charming, sunny personality, within and without.

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Home and Away


Note: I had originally wanted to post this in the wee hours of Tuesday morning but the erratic connection had other plans in mind.
Thus explains this belated posting. I am happy to report the trip to the doctor went well (screaming at vaccination notwithstanding), the shipping stuff are now taking over the other guest room and the living room is officially a lounging zone.

p.s. I have yet to post those photos.POSTED!

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In some way or another, life is picking up back home in Malaysia.

I’d not be so bold as to say that I’ve completely adjusted to the temperament and temperatures of the Klang Valley.

Thankfully, the climate turned moderate with the scattered thunderstorms we’ve been experiencing since the day we arrived. In fact, my twin recalled it didn’t rain until the day we came home.

So, what have we been up to?

There’s the cleaning of the apartment – dust bunnies and dust dinosaurs everywhere.

And there’s the question of getting the place toddler-proof and looking more live-in.

Also, our shipping items have yet to arrive at our doorstep. They were supposed to be delivered last Wednesday but owing to some technical malfunctions and problem at Customs clearance, they could only come this afternoon. *Fingers crossed*

At least, that’s what the shipping agent informed us last over the phone yesterday’s afternoon. This postponement is not good for KLM’s business, nor is it doing anything to uphold Malaysian Custom’s efficiency.

We only have clothes, a tot tricycle, books as well as some kitchen utensils and foodstuffs (extra Senseo Koffie Pads!) in those boxes and bags. I’m sure they won’t raise the eyebrows of any Custom officials, or will they?

Aside from that, we have a pediatrician’s appointment today for Sadia’s compulsory 18-month shot. I do hope everything will go well and that Sadia is more than amenable to the whole idea.

Her appetite has yet to increase and in fact, it has gone downhill ever since we landed. It’s probably mostly attributed to adapting to a new environment and lifestyle. No more feeding of ducks or pigeons, or evening walks on the Delft Square chasing them pigeons.

Sometimes I am worried about her missing her old routines and way of life. We do try to provide the same kind of food that she’s been eating, or at least a semblance of it, but the waning appetite continues to prevail.

We’ll see what the doctor has to say and recommend. I must say Sadia is more of a grazer who prefers nibbling on food whenever she feels hungry, instead of eating at designated mealtimes. Probably therein lies the problem but we couldn’t possibly force her to eat at those times, more so when her ‘eating schedule’ has gone topsy-turvy.

When your kid refuses to eat, you get frustrated in turn and feel helpless because you don’t know what else to do. God willing, she’d resume eating as soon as she acclimatized herself to our old home.

On a familial front, there was a Kenduri Arwah for my late granddad (Malay for Thanksgiving for the Deceased) at my grandma’s in Kampung Bharu over the weekend. It was a small affair, with mom’s close first cousins as well as family friends and the Orang Surau (Malay for the Congregation of the Neighborhood Prayer Hall) as invited guests.

In a true maternal family’s tradition, the Asar (late afternoon prayer) event was followed by a birthday party for my 15-year-old nephew.

And as predicted, Sadia was overwhelmed by the usual Saturday crowd at my grandma’s and wailed uncontrollably to be carried away from the sea of unfamiliar faces. We had to cool – literally and figuratively - her off in the car before slowly entering the living room.

With her cousins and my young nieces and nephews milling about to sing Happy Birthday, Sadia instantly warmed up to them. Sadia loves to make friends with children of all ages (except for babies!) and that somewhat mollified her fears of the new territory.

If you’d like to view photos of the Do, please click here. That is, if my intermittent internet access lets me post them!

With Merdeka long weekend around the corner, I sincerely hope we get settled down really soon. Last night we rearranged the furniture in the living room so as to free up some space for Sadia to roam around. It worked! She has been running back and fro from one side of the room to the other! :)

As Sadia’s face beamed with joy, so were her parents, sensing that Sadia has finally come to love this place as her new home. Why, she even has that special nook in the clothes-drying cum store cum guest’s room to quietly do her business! (if you get what I mean ;) )

Next on the itinerary: Kuching visit during the fasting month!

Saturday, August 25, 2007

KL Membengit *

It is close to 2 a.m. here in the bedroom of our humble Ampang apartment where we have been hibernating for the past week.

Or rather, it feels like it.

Sadia has taken an unusually long time to adjust her biological clock that follows keenly her Dutch’s sleeping patterns which in turn altered her parents into a zombie-like state. From the time we arrived on Sunday to Thursday, her bedtime varies between 2 to 4 a.m. Only tonight she slept around 1:30 and gave me a breather to update this site.

The rippling effects of this slow temporal adjustment range from undue stress to heightened anger at seemingly trivial issues.

At first, I wasn’t sure what tone to use for this Malaysian re-entry post. Should I just let go of my emotions and rant to my heart’s content, the inadequacies and other disturbing attributes of my country? Or should I discard those emotionally-charged excesses and exercise some form of discretion with my thoughts?

Granted, all these first impressions are probably owing to the culture shock that I (and husband) am experiencing upon reintroduction to the Malaysian way of life.

After spending a quiet existence in a Delftian bubble for almost a year, the cacophony that is KL assailed me from all directions. And the massive school-holiday crowd thronging the malls and roads didn’t help at all to ease up our frazzled nerves.

The most glaring change in our life so far is the mode of transport to which we must now solely depend on: the car. The efficient public transport in the Netherlands made it unnecessary, even superfluous, for us to use a car. We walk everywhere – to the friendly, nearby neighborhood supermarket, to the clothing stores of choice, to the cafes galore.

In Malaysia, unless you are willing to risk your life riding the Metro bus driven by addlebrained individuals (or would animals be more apt?), a personal car is the most practical option available. And since everyone else has the same idea, there are gazillions of cars on the roads, which serve as a catalyst for traffic-jam nightmares, thus hampering quick movements and, understandably defeating the purpose of having a car in the first place!

And of course, the notorious, globally-renowned Malaysian drivers need some getting used to. My observations for the first week include: (a) the ACTUAL purpose of using your indicator light when turning either to the right or to the left is to prepare yourself from being ambushed by the car behind for having the audacity to get into his or her lane; (b) this will cause the looney, egomaniac driver to floor his or her accelerator so as to hinder you from overtaking him or her on that lane; (c) the difficulty of going out of your parking space when other cars refuse to stop to let you reverse your way since they are all KIASU monsters; (d) the gross negligence to use your indicator light to inform the car behind as to the direction you are planning to turn since signaling are for wimps (or if you’re a chauvinist – women) only.

The lack of common courtesy on the roads must be the primary reason for the unending cases of fatalities on highways and byways. In a land purportedly famous for its friendly smiles, this form of reckless behavior runs counter to this gracious claim. How ironic is that?

Why do Malaysians vent out their anger while driving and take it personally when someone wants to overtake or go into their lane? Why can’t they just let them through? Will their egos be bruised or God forbid (for men only), lessen the value of their manhood? This baffles me so.

Any form of courtesy also appears to be on the decline, if not disappearing altogether. Today, I had to carry an empty stroller over five short steps and after heaving it successfully on top of the landing, Sadia’s non-spill cup fell out of the bag attached to the stroller. As I ran down two steps after it, the pushchair tilted over with some contents strewn all over the steps below.

The most annoying aspect of the incident was that NOONE came to help me. In fact, there were three young guys loitering on the aforesaid steps and the only thing they could offer was “Ooopp!” as if providing me with the requisite sound effects that my stroller was about to flip over. They just sat there, wide-eyed and probably amused by my hapless situation.

They were the ones closest but some people manning a Persona promotional tent also stood there agape. I was miffed by the absence of anyone’s quick thinking to help a person in need. Have Malaysia’s urban areas cultivated a series of apathetic societies? Or is it a national phenomenon?

Instantaneously, my mind wandered to Delft’s train station where its southbound platform is strangely not equipped with any handicapped facility i.e., a lift. This oversight also causes difficulty for stroller-reliant individuals, not to mention those carrying heavy luggage, to lug the perambulators down some flights of stairs. However, more often than not, total strangers would offer to help my husband carry the stroller down to the bottom of the steps.

Or, they would hold the door open for us (and our stroller) when we are entering or leaving a store, since most stores prefer using double doors than the automatic doors, owing possibly largely to climatic reasons (windy, cold condition during the Fall and Winter). Besides Delft, these selfless acts were experienced in big cities of Rotterdam, Den Haag and Amsterdam. So it’s a lame excuse to say that city folks are less friendly or on the flip side, more self-absorbed.

I know it’s only the first week and in time I might stumble on some kindhearted folks, but somehow deep inside my gut feeling is telling me this is the real deal. I have to adapt to this kind of lifestyle – fastpaced, noisy, living-in-traffic-jams, kiasu-mentality – and hopefully remain unscathed by the jarring, discordant messages that KL is sending out to me. Loud and clear.

*Bengit can be loosely translated as Shrieking.

Saturday, August 18, 2007

Daag en Tot Ziens, Delft! (Goodbye and See You Later)


Canal at Moslaan, Delft last week


Feeding the ducks at this canal is a favourite pastime


In Delft Square where feeding the pigeons has been a therapeutic enterprise

The bags packed, the countertops wiped, the garbage taken out, the taxi booked, the toddler fast asleep, and the adults bushed.

Past the midnight hour but we are still tying up some loose ends in the packing and cleaning department.

It's been a hectic week, to say the least.

And an emotional week, at that.

As I washed the last dishes and cleaned the shelves, it dawned on me that we are leaving for good.

Who knows when we will come back. I felt a lump in my throat and for a moment, almost lost the battle in opening the floodgates.

Some great memories to be had here. There were some painful ones such as the time when Sadia fell off the bed during the second week after we first arrived, and hubby was away at class.

But mostly, we have only fond memories of this place. Delft is a wonderful, unassuming town to live in. I can strongly vouch for that.

Delft's picturesque setting and quaint lifestyle are some of the attributes that induce us to fall in love with her.

Like any ordinary person, it has its share of flaws and foibles like the hash joints, rowdy drunkards bellowing from the alley below, and the crazy drivers speeding on the narrow canal roads.

In the end, the upsides trump the downsides hands down.

Dank u well, Delft for your gracious hospitality and letting me grow alongside you. It's a worthwhile learning experience.

And we plan to meet you again, sometime in the not-so-distant future.

Our second week in Delft, September 2006


Second week - September 2006, when the same canal was still full of moss


Sadia at home, just mastered the art of crawling

Thursday, August 16, 2007

Briefs: Artis Zoo, Amsterdam and Food Wishlist

As promised, here are the slides from our zoo jaunt on Friday, 3rd August. Artis Zoo is a tram ride away from Amsterdam Centraal station and offers its visitors, an oasis of sorts from the hustle and bustle and pollution - noise and smokes of every kind - in this canal-riddled city.

It is smaller than Rotterdam's premier zoo but we like both the intimacy and friendliness it exudes and affords us.

Highlights of the zoo were the restless leopard and black panther, the mysterious loner orang-utan and the amorous gibbon couple!

If you're in town, this zoo is highly-recommended for those die-hard (well, that's a tad exaggerated) animal lovers and travelling with kids.



Alternatively, you can view the slides here.
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Countdown T-3.....

Malaysia in three more days, God willing.

To borrow my twin's wishlist for stuff, here's a compilation of my (short) food-related wishlist:

  1. McD Quarter Pounder with Cheese


  2. Burger King's Whopper


  3. KFC's Original Snack Plate


  4. Carl's Junior Burger


  5. Chilli's Triple Play


  6. Mahboob's Beriyani Ayam Madu (Bangsar)


  7. Pecan Cinnabon (is the chain still around in Malaysia?)


  8. Madam Kwan's Fried Chicken


  9. Little Penang Kafe's Lam Mee


  10. Insaf's Roti Canai (Jalan TAR)


  11. Kluang Station's Half Chicken


  12. Mark Assam Laksa's Asam Laksa


  13. Uncle Lim's Nasi Lemak


  14. Nasi Kerabu (any recommendations in the Klang Valley region?)


  15. Pizza Italia's Spicy Mexicana Pizza


  16. Ampang Yong Tow Foo


  17. Dusit Villa's Rice with Beef Pad Kaphrao


  18. San Francisco's Giant Sugared Donut


  19. Starbucks' Banana-Chocolate Muffin


  20. La Cucur's Cucur Jagung (Savoury Corn Fritters)


  21. Mak Bedah's Karipap (Ampang)


Any other suggestions - new eateries, new fads, new cuisine - that we should try back home?

With Ramadan round the corner, I hope it'll help reining in any weight increase post-homecoming! :)

Image taken from here.

Monday, August 13, 2007

Als De Morgen is Gekomen (As The Morning is Coming)



It's a lazy Sunday mid-morning as I typed this in bed. This time next week, we will set foot on Malaysian soil again after a nine-month interim.

One more week to go before we board that early morning train for Schiphol. I just hope Schiphol will be kinder and gentler with us, as compared to Charles Du Gaulle.

After spending almost a year* here, home beckons.

Our stuff was picked up for shipping last Friday and now it's just time to clean up the apartment for the University inspection and packing the rest of our things into the bags all the while praying that they won't burst at the seams.

My heart is heavy just thinking about saying goodbye to this place we have called home for nearly a year. Delft has been a much needed break, a wonderful respite, and a place of musing.

While living in the Netherlands has its ups and downs, the same can be said for putting residence in Malaysia.

Smoke-filled cafes and restaurants in Holland versus massive traffic jams in Malaysia, for instance. Crummy, erratic weather in Delft as opposed to haze-infested Ampang is another example.

But there are many virtues and habits in this country that I completely desire for Malaysia to emulate. Effective recycling policy, pedestrian and handicapped friendly streets and ubiquitous cash debit card system in most stores, to name a few.

Some might be surprised to see the word virtue next to the word Holland but rest assured, it is not all sex, drugs and rock 'n roll here in the Netherlands. I believe there are perpetuating myths on cannabis, homosexuals and prostitution that need to be debunked.


Some blue-purple hydrangea bunches we bought at yesterday's Delft street market

Since time is running out to finish our to-do lists and many last-minute places to visit for nostalgic purposes, I will try to update as and when the golden opportunity arises, especially without me having to lose sleep over it!

If I don't, let's hope the internet connect in Malaysia is up by the time we plonk ourselves in our pastel-hued bedroom. Eh wait! We still have to clean, vacuum, scrub all the dusts and grimes on the bed, in the kitchen, in the living room and so on and so forth.....

Take care and let's pray that everything runs smooth when we hop that train next Saturday morning.

For now, enjoy this Dutch's cult hit that has clinched Jan Smit's platinum success. It is also my hubby's theme song when he slogged away at his dissertation. I know it has that 80s vibe, but it's infectious and fun!



*We went back for 11 days - late October to early November 2006 - to settle complicated and long-drawn Dutch visa application which propitiously coincided with Raya.

Saturday, August 11, 2007

Paris - Cinquième Jour (Fifth Day)



If there is a possibility of several things going wrong, the one that will cause the most damage will be the first one to go wrong - Murphy's Law Number Two


Five days ago, I read about the heist of four priceless paintings in Museum of Fine Arts in Nice, France. Four to five masked men dashed in and stole the paintings at gunpoint. This newspiece jolted my memory back to our last day in Paris. Granted, it was not in the order of magnitude as the theft but it was dramatic no less.

On hindsight, a series of events on the last leg of our sojourn portend to such an action-packed finish.

We had packed most of our stuff the night before and woke up only to eat breakfast and stuff the remaining items into either Sadia's diaper bag or the stroller. Breakfast comprised Nestle's La Laitiere yummy Creme Brulee (only in France would you find desserts being sold in individual pots of glass on the supermarket shelves!), Tropicana Orange Juice and other goodies in the fridge that we must consume or otherwise they'd be thrown away. Being the Waste-Not stickler that I am, I gulped most of the OJ and mineral water.

Since our flight was at 3:30 p.m., we planned to walk around our hotel's neighbourhood for two star attractions before checking out at noon. We had already booked a taxi as well the day before and with all the bags packed, we traipsed down Rue de Ecoles, the street on which we stayed and turned left into one of Paris' famous boulevards, Boulevard St Michel for Jardin du Luxembourg.

(By the by, if you plan to take a taxi to the airport, please ask your hotel's front desk to book a day in advance. It is most advisable since you might be waiting for a long time for a taxi should you choose to inquire for one AFTER you have checked out. This also minimises the chance of you missing your flight!)

On the way there, we stumbled upon a Gap store which caught the interest of hubby who had already run out of t-shirts following a chocolate macaroon accident on the first day. While hubby scuttled inside the store for a top, I wheeled the droopy-eyed Sadia to bask in the stunning view of Chapelle de la Sorbonne standing right beside the store building.

As we were about to test the water, so to speak, of the Chapelle's public fountain, my stomach churned violently. I wanted so bad to relieve myself and fast! It must be the unbalanced diet of food and drink (OJs!) I had that morning. I was pacing outside the Gap store, seriously on the lookout for any signs of hubby. Luckily, he made a quick purchase and came to my rescue. I inquired if he knew whether the store has a toilet to which he replied as highly unlikely. Desperate for the first sighting of a WC, I rushed into a hotel located on the same row as the Gap store and frantically looked for a toilet. My two loved ones were trying hard to keep up with me from the back!

Thank goodness, the receptionist on the front desk was occupied with her work as I passed her by. In times of dire need, my instinct must be working overtime as it led me straight to the commode without hesitating where to go and which corner to turn. Somehow, I ended up in the basement at which the bathroom was situated. An out-and-out bliss! Pun intended!

Fully gratified, I joined hubby and Sadia in the hotel lounge and thereon we casually exited the automatic door as if we're the hotel guests. Thank you again for the superb facility!


Further down the Boulevard was the Luxembourg Garden or Luco as the locals call it. It is the largest public park in the city, covering an area of 25 hectares and is located in the vicinity of Sorbonne University. Nestled in the northern part of the Garden is Luxembourg Palace, where the French Senate convenes. The extensive grounds also house a puppet theatre, a merry-go-round, a large playground, an apiary containing around 20 hives, an orchard of pear and apple trees and a gazebo with live musical performances. At the time of our stroll, a group of visiting high school bands from the U.S. belted out some familiar tunes on the black gazebo. And of course, a French garden would never be complete without statues and sculptures. There are in fact over 100 of them here!





The weather veered more towards the cloudy side, presenting us with the imminent prospect of rainfall. The accompanying breeze however was a welcome departure from the scorching hot weather we'd experienced for the last three days. Although I really didn't mind the gentle wind, I was feeling rather tired of our daily peregrinations which caused me to be irritable and antsy. This moodswing, according to my hubby, was well documented on my very unattractive yausu (sourfaced) expression. Ahh, thanks hun for that well-timed and well-deserved sarcasm. :]




Pressed for time, we only sauntered along the north parts of the expansive parterre, including the octagonal pond, called the Grand Bassin facing the Palace and, row upon row of well-kept gigantic hedges. Pony rides, and areas to play tennis and French's version of lawn bowling, Jeux de Boules are also available for those preferring more active pursuits.







As such, we missed the famed baroque-styled Médicis fountain and the original life-size cast of Statue of Liberty, as envisioned by its sculptor, Frederick Auguste Batholdi.




Still dazzled by its beauty, we went out the Garden's wrought iron fence enclosure with a heavy feeling. Next on the agenda was the impressive neo-classicsal building, Panthéon, sitting on top of the Montagne Sainte-Geneviève hill to which we trekked all the way from Boulevard St Michel. It was relatively close by, not more than five minutes' walk.




Panthéon, which means 'all the Gods' in Greek, refers to the 'Gods of French literature, arts and sciences', such as Voltaire, Rousseau, Marat, Victor Hugo, Émile Zola, Marie Curie, René Descartes, Louis Braille and Jacques-Germain Soufflot, the Panthéon's architect, whose remains had been interred into this grand mausoleum.


Echoing such dedication to these national heroes' contribution to France, the inscription on the Panthéon's main pediment states: Aux grandes hommes la patrie reconnaissante (For great men, the grateful homeland). As such, entrance to its interiors is restricted and only opened for the burial procession of French's greats.

In a hurry for hotel's checking out, we snapped a few photos here and went down the hill towards the direction of our hotel. After putting our bags downstairs and freshened up, we waited in the lounge area for our taxi. With 10 minutes to waste before the appointed taxi arrival at 12:30, hubby traipsed over to the neighborhood supermarket to buy Sadia's milk. In the meantime, I succeeded in putting Sadia to sleep.

The taxi appeared on the hotel's doorstep right on cue and I gingerly carried Sadia to its backseat while hubby sorted out the luggage with its driver. When the driver put the key into the ignition, the radio came on at full blast to which we politely asked the Laotian guy to turn it down, pointing to our sleeping toddler. After quickly complying to our wish however, he began to make conversation in a high-decibel manner.

Our attempts to discourage his talk however fell on deaf ears which in turn caused Sadia to stir from her nap. Poor Sadia - only sleeping for 20 minutes. Sensing our daggerlooks, the driver remained quiet for the remainder of the journey. Too late now!

With the absence of traffic jams, we arrived around 1 pm and was exhilirated by the fact that we made it early and could spend some leisurely moments shopping for last minute trinkets like fridge magnets and mugs at the tax-free souvenir shops. And yet, those happy thoughts were just wishful thinking.....

The counter at which we must check in only opened for business 15 minutes after we alighted from the taxi. Due to servicing other routes (Spain, Italy, etc), the queue was unbelievably long. After waiting for ages, it was finally our turn at the check-in counter. In the midst of answering questions from the staff, he interrupted us by saying "We have to leave NOW" and picked up his belongings.

What???!! Apparently, from the left side of our counter some people in military uniforms shouting order in French, demanded everyone to disperse from the immediate area. Some nincompoop had left an unattended baggage somewhere in the vicinity and until the authority inspected its content for possible terrorism-related substances, we were asked to go about our respective businesses. Oh no! Let's just hope we won't miss our flight!

With a hungry tot in tow, all of us tucked into the two large muffins bought at one of the airport kiosks. Hubby went over twice to the designated counter for further information on its opening before we at last got back into the outrageously long line. Coupled by the fact that merely three counters were opened, latecomers for flights earlier than us and early birds for flights later than us compounded to the laggard time.

While I entertained Sadia on the bench nearby, hubby queued with the airport trolley slowly trundling along. It was almost 2:45 and we were still not even close to our turn. Concerned about the risk of missing our flight, hubby requested that I asked the staff manning the Self-Service check-in machines for options. She quickly bumped us to a shorter line from which we finally settled ourselves into a counter and placed our luggage on its conveyor belt. When the check-in staff accidentally activated the conveyor belt on reverse mode, one bag fell off and hit squarely on hubby's foot! After spending a gruelling time on his feet, hubby was very annoyed, more so when she was the least bit apologetic.

It had been a long (in every sense of the word) day! Mishap during the time of arrival and now this sad episode, we concurred that Charles De Gaulle is the worst airport we've so far been to!

Another major obstacle to go through was the security checkpoint which we dreaded every single time. Luckily, the airport staff on duty looked at our tickets and subsequently directed us to the front of the line as prioritised passengers. We heaved a sigh of huge relief due to the fast and easy security procedure.

It was 15 minutes to the departure time when we sat down at the boarding gate to take a short breather. No sooner had we begun to relax than the Air France's staff announced that it was time to board the plane!!! Talk about perfect timing!

As you can evidently see, our whirlwind Paris trip ended on an unusually high note - a ridiculous bomb scare that set off a chain of events that nearly prevented us from getting to our gate and boarding the flight home.

So no macaroons (boohoohoo), souvenir shopping (sorry Rizby) and simply taking it easy at the airport. No such luck!

On a great note, I rewarded myself with a Caramel Macchiato in the Schiphol's departure lounge as soon as we landed! After the arduous and exhausting experience, I surely needed an instant fixer-upper!

Paris again? you venture to ask. Despite our share of troubles and headaches, I have to say Yes. We've yet to go to other Paris' attractions such as Invalides, Musee d'Orsay, Sacre-Coeur, Montmartre Cemetery, Musee Marmottan Claude Monet and Le Bon Marche (the world's first department store - how could we have missed it?!).

As suggested by hubby, we would probably come back again in our 40s, God willing. With the kid(s) a bit older, she/they would be left to her/their own devices while hubby and I savour both the beautiful perspectives and mesmerising masterpieces on the vast grounds of Louvre. (By the way, did you know the Louvre also provides visitors with the Da Vinci Code's audio guide version? How funny is that!)

Let's hope we are as sprightly and energetic as we are now when Paris welcomes us back into her arms! :)

Tuesday, August 07, 2007

Every Breath You Take, Every Move You Make


Taking a short breather from my Paris write-up

That familiar ditty could have painful consequences.....

Someone close to me recently intimated that she is being stalked by someone whom she had known through work. She even found out the existence of an online dedication for her in which the names of her family members were also mentioned. And how he ranted and raved that they are meant for one another.

How icky is that? In my book, that is the most eerie, not to mention despicable, thing a human being can do to another.

My mind wandered as to the reasons for this turn of event. Did she act in a way that led him on? Or did he pick up signals that were wrongly construed as reciprocating? Whatever the explanation is, hounding someone is an aberrant behaviour that needs to be 'properly' addressed.

So what possess one to switch on his or her stalking mode? What are the motivations behind their skewed perception on reality? What are the trigger points that culminate in this sordid manifestation?

In my opinion, all of us, to some degree or another, have experienced (or would be experiencing) either being stalked or being a stalker. Don't get me wrong. There are various gradations to being a stalker. Some are almost innocuous - asking for autographs of a favourite celebrity - whilst others take a life of their own. The thoughts of stalking that someone consume them. And when provoked, they could become physically violent and insistent. God forbid.

Probably, a different word should be used for harmless fondness for a certain someone as opposed to the negative connotation that associates with stalking.

(Speaking of celebrity, I think I saw Yusri of KRU strolling along one of Delft's canals in the early parts of July with his mother and other relatives. His matte complexion was unmistakable. Haha. I could be wrong but then you have to ask his publicist to confirm my sighting ;D And NO, I'm NOT a fan)

On a more serious note however, excessively obsessing about someone translates into the most dangerous of stalking. Putting it another way, when a person says No, it still means No. The finality of such word might be too much to swallow for the receiving party. Why is he or she dissing me?

The fact of the matter is the person has explained again and again his or her situation which clearly exclude any romantic inclination whatsoever. But the receiving party wouldn't listen. Refuse to hear a word of it.

My homegirl's incident calls to mind my two personal accounts with stalkers. I will now divulge them in a descending chronological order.

First. At one of my former workplaces, I unusually let off my guard and became chummy with a clerical officer whom I had later discovered liked me more than just friends. He seemed like a nice chap - timid and soft-spoken. Thus, it was a comfortable feeling talking (or emailing) with him. It's almost.....brotherly-like. When I slowly detached myself from the friendship - lest he harboured other ideas - he became insistent and demanded an explanation. Of course, the word 'Friends' cropped up in my reply to which he declined to comply. In other words, the M.O. he engaged in ran counter to my wishes. I was not amused at all and impetuously pulled the plug. From thereon, he'd suddenly appear at a nearby cubicle trying to get a glimpse of me and when I turned around to look back at him, he'd avert my gaze or leave the area. Or when I went to pray at a makeshift surau inside the office space, he would be in the vicinity. Else, I would come out of the surau and he would be busy 'looking' for files in the adjoining back room. Creepy!

I was scared out of my wits for this invasion of my privacy and personal space. I over-reacted which gave an advantage to the enemy. When the realisation hit me that my immature response would only beget more trouble, I changed my tactics and acted normally when he's around. Ignorance is bliss. Such a wonderful truism to live by. In the end however, the deranged pursuit slowly fizzled as soon as I got another job offer and another possible and willing female entered the scene (probably due more to the latter ;) ).

Second. During junior year in college, I was informed by the Malaysian Student Department ('MSD') in Chicago that someone pursuing a Masters degree would be attending a university relatively close to mine and he would like to be in contact with Malaysians in the area. Since I was in constant contact with my MSD officer - mostly for claims purposes - he gave my name to this guy. I readily complied with my officer's request and hosted him when he first arrived in town. As it turned out, his university is quite far by public transport and he put up a night at the apartment below mine where two Malaysian males lived. I also went to the trouble of cooking for him because (a) it was the fasting month, (b) he was away from home for the first time and, (c) that's the least I could do as a hostess. Big Mistake. He ended up praising me in the oddest way, "Your cooking is so delicious; it tastes like someone who's already married". What the heck!

Those strange comments followed me the next day when I showed him around the college town's flagship mall (who am I kidding - it IS the only HAPPENING mall for miles!). Something is off with this guy, and to make matters worse, he has this most annoying laugh. With a huge sigh of relief, he left for his university but kept on calling me over the phone. I know he must be lonely but I didn't care at all for those corny pick-up lines and constant compliments. The whole 'affair' was suffocating.

He wanted to see me to go out for coffee and the like. I continued to be evasive, saying I'm busy and the like, hoping that he'd get the hint. And when he came to town, I'd escape to the university library or visit a friend on campus. Sometimes, I'd just take leave from my apartment and stayed on campus with a friend or a Malaysian junior as it would save me the hassle of entertaining his phone calls.

One scary incident took place one day when a 'buzz' on the apartment door alerting me of a visitor. I went out of my front door to take a peak at the apartment complex's double door in order to discern who it was. There was a small glass opening next to the double door which enabled one to look straight into my apartment's door, and vice-versa. Lo and behold, it was him! He probably saw my back as I turned quickly into my apartment. Afterwards, I heard a series of knocks on my door. Someone had probably come out the double door and inadvertently let him in. The knocking was persistent. I was home alone as my roommate was not in. I ended up calling someone on the phone to keep me company since I was so petrified. What if he became forceful and climbed the balcony? I couldn't even begin to imagine the scenario.

Fortunately, he left after what felt like an eternity. Like a loon, I doublechecked the balcony and peered out my bedroom's window onto the streets outside. Ever since that incident, I would always exclude myself from attending any gathering where he'd likely appear.

The following year - senior year - our paths crossed again when that same Malaysian males' apartment hosted a Do for Raya. He was invited, much to my chagrin. But to my delightful surprise, he brought along his wife and two kids! His family finally joined him that year. In fact, he acted sheepishly in front of the wifey, his eyes darted here and there as if waiting for some kind of retribution to fall on his head. It was Raya and I was not in the mood to spoil anyone's fun - even if he is a two-timing low-life excuse of a man!

10 years on, I had thought I would hear or see the last of him. Correction: a spectre of him. When our national songstress, Siti Nurhaliza announced her marriage plans, his image came back to haunt me. Probably haunt is such a harsh word. To poke fun at, is more appropriate. My stalker is a spitting image of Siti's intended! Therefore, suffice to say, whenever I look at this Datuk, I would always be reminded of one lecherous East Malaysian dude. Although I have an affinity for East Malaysian men (I'm married to one :) ), I'd gladly avoid the 40-year-old variety! And most probably not one from Sabah! LOL!

In the final analysis, while stalking is never a fun ordeal to go through, one should always remember that spiralling into your fear of a stalker will only exacerbate the situation and embolden his resolve. Have a close and reliable circle of friends and family members to support you in time of need and to quell your feeling of dread. (Having an uncle in the police force works a host of wonders) Lastly, turning a blind eye will save you the unnecessary headaches!

Take care dearest.

Sunday, August 05, 2007

Paris - Quatrième Jour (Fourth Day)

Is that a lesbian couple making out? - 'moi'


A sliver of sunlight peaked through the double window's screen, announcing the arrival of a new day. The small fan whirred softly on top of the dresser, airing our quaint room with an invigorating breeze. I've neglected to mention that a/c is not one of our hotel room's amenities. Despite the lack of a/c, the room is surprisingly cool owing to the fact that the hotel sits on a slight incline with the room's position sheltered from direct sunlight.

We planned to take it easy on the fourth day, after a gruelling walkathon session around the city on the third day. To paraphrase Ruby Ahmad, an unstructured day lazing by Paris' famous garden, Jardin Des Tuileries and strolling and unwinding by the riverbank.

Sick of street food - baguettes galore - which we consumed for dinner in the past two days, hubby bought some scrumptious Moroccan fare at a restaurant near our hotel ton the third night. As wont, the food was emporter (take away/to go in English) for our gluttonous consumption in the room. The veal Tajine (or Tagine) dish hit the spot and we slept like a baby that night.

First of firsts, we commenced the fourth day's excursion by scouring Printemps and Galeries Lafayette in order to find a suitable toy/souvenir for Sadia. Due to some renovation works, the selection in Printemps was limited and bland. However, Printemps didn't wholly disappoint since I managed to procure the much-touted Ladurée divine macaroons. Three crumbly mouth-watering chocolate macaroons.

We thereon adjourned to the neighbouring and favourite department store, Galeries and were pleased with the wide range of toys and other knick-knacks on the same floor as Lina's Cafe. Kill two birds with one stone. Eat and shop!

Like a fish to water, Sadia was delighted by the array of playthings colourfully organised on various tables and shelves. Her favourites were undoubtably the soft toys which she hugged one after the other. Also, there were the deftly-crafted wooden rocking horses, one of which Sadia happily mounted. Predictably, with her short attention span, she hopped off and scurried over to another row of table on which she cuddled some more of the soft toys. When Sadia yanked out a big teddy bear from his place on the display, a stocky old lady stopped in her tracks and reprimanded us in French. Eventhough I couldn't understand her, her glower was universal in its expression. And yet she was not wearing any badge or insignia which says she's a staff. Strangely enough, the staff need not don any uniform, nor an ID tag.

I promptly took Sadia away to find hubby who was checking out the interactive toys on a different section of the floor. It was time for lunch. Since Sadia's mind was however still on those exquisite toys, we took turns eating. When Sadia checked out the rocking horse again, that same glumfaced woman was in the vicinity and as soon as Sadia came off the horse, she picked it up and angrily put it back at its correct spot. She was showing a female customer some toy options on the adjacent shelf and I guess we're in her way. But there's no need to be so rude! Even the customer was a bit uneasy. I think Galeries should re-think their hiring policy especially for those assigned to the children's section. Not some sullen middle-aged worker please!

Amid Sadia's cacophonic cry, we exited Galeries and re-entered the Metro for our first stop - Place de La Concorde, the largest square in Paris with a 23-meter tall obelisk as its centerpiece. The 3,300 year-old Luxor obelisk is originated from temple of Ramses II at Thebes and is flanked by two fountains. Geographically, it is located between the Tuileries Garden on its east and the Champs-Elysées on its west.





After we resurfaced from underground however, the Place de la Concorde was cordoned off from tourists and locals alike due to some road construction. Bummer! As such, we only snapped some photos from afar. With the Tuileries right at its doorstep, we ambled around its 'hallowed' grounds, absorbing the lovely ambience and pleasant scenery. There were trampoline site for kids as well as a mini amusement park complete with bumper cars, merry-go-round and various rides for all ages. Fancy a pony ride around the Garden? That could also be arranged for a price. We chose to rest at an alfresco cafe near a small pond, ordering coffee and iced tea at Paris-inflated prices. Whilst Sadia satisfied her curiousity by walking with her Yayah towards the amusement rides, I wolfed down one of them macaroons. Fluffy with a generous amount of chocolate filling. :)











With Sadia refusing to take her nap, we decided to walk down to the other end of the Garden and came upon a resplendent white ferris wheel on our lefthand side. It was an awesome sight to behold with another stately fountain standing right across it. One thing to bear in mind while visiting Tuileries Garden is that one is not permitted to step anywhere on the grass, which to me, somewhat marred the whole Garden experience. I reckon the high cost of maintaining the Garden hinders its visitors from walking and rolling on the grass. A small girl with pale complexion and Annie-like curly hair crossed our paths near the fountain. I couldn't help but to capture the eye-catching locks!






We sauntered further down to see up close the Arc de Triomphe de Carrousel (not to be mistaken with the famous Arc De Triomphe itself). A triumphal arch, it was commissioned to commemorate France's military victories under Emperor Napoleon 1. The arch's detailed carvings and intricate bas reliefs attest to the French's uncompromising aesthetic. On the opposite end of the triumphal arch is Musee de Louvre. I was however not prepared for the dusty, gravelly pathway leading to the triumphal arch which coupled with the stifling heat, induced us to leave the area almost immediately.




By the time we hit the pedestrian walkway along the River Seine, Sadia dozed off without any protest forthcoming. Along the way, we passed La Passerelle des Arts (loosely translated as The Bridge of Arts) which beckoned us to tread on its wooden planks. Paris' first iron bridge, it is the only pedestrian bridge crossing over the River Seine, inviting patrons to sit down and immerse in the panoramic view.





Our leisurely walk proved to be cumbersome as our backs (more often hubby's back) would fall victim to Sadia falling asleep either in our arms or on our shoulders. Thus, the very delicate act of transferring her to the stroller must be well-timed as well as quietly executed. So where can such an apropos maneuver be done? From our vantage point on the narrow passageway, the extensive riverside promenade down below offered a perfect spot for Sadia to sleep for a longer period. We descended the wobbly cobblestone path down to the riverside and promptly seated ourselves on the ancient wall of the riverbank.




Aside from the breathtaking view by the river, a gamut of activities across the bank amused us immensely. An old man sunbathing in his underpants and a young couple - lesbian-looking according to our poor eyesight - all over each other, oblivious to people's stare and prying eyes. On our side of the river, a young man just solicited a sexy woman - halter top, well-endowed, tight jeans (you get the rough idea) - to join him and his friend for a drink and smoke to which she readily accepted. Wow! That was so easy! We also witnessed a Jewish guy donning a yarmulke getting hot and heavy with his girlfriend on a bench. I wonder if the orthodox French Jews have anything similar to JAIS, JAPP or JAWI in Malaysia. :)

Paris' humble beginnings can be traced to the river where people congregate for recreational, commercial and intellectual purposes. It is therefore no surprise that the people continue this tradition and enliven the banks with their respective 'places in the sun'. By the by, as it turned out, the alleged lesbian couple was in fact heterosexuals who parted ways with a series of amorous kisses. Ahh Paree!

After two hours of idleness lulled by the tranquility and breezy atmosphere, we left for the pier further down the road from which we were to board a sightseeing boat. We chose a small vessel under the service of Bateaux Parisiens for a one-hour boat cruise along the River Seine and back again to our loading point.

Together with the rest of the tourists, we initially sat outside on one of the row of seats. But being typical Malaysians/Asians, the unbearable hot sun caused us to find shelter inside, albeit a tad noisy from the sound of the roaring engine. It drowned out the English commentary from the female staff on board who took a fancy to Sadia. It would be an understatement to say that Sadia was fully roused out of her nap by the boat cruise. Moreover, the fancy macaroon restored her mood, so much so that her face was covered with chocolate streaks!

Among the memorable scenes we saw were the imposing Eiffel Tower, of course (do click here for a view), the heavily adorned Art Nouveau Le pont Alexandre III (or Bridge of Alexander III) and a line of nude sunbathers by the riverbank!






















Yielding to the call of our waning energy level, we decided to skip the plan to view Eiffel Tower at night and moved straight to buying dinner at the lively Latin Quarter, evocative of a small village setting thanks in part to its winding streets and an eclectic mix of patrons - from the professionals, to the academe, to the laymen. Rue Mouffetard remains as the main artery to traverse, with a bevy of interesting shops, international restaurants, student bars and cafés. We bumped into that lustful young Jewish couple here. Talk about small world!

Baguette with tuna (again) for three out of four nights, I slumbered to the lip-smacking image of nasi ayam in my dream. Can't wait to go home.....